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Date: 05.03.17
Oh, What a Beautiful Yesterday!

loic-djim-69263Before I met my husband, there was a man I was interested in but there was a complication: he had a five-year-old daughter. And, I wasn’t interested in becoming a step mother. I wanted to have my own kids. And from my vantage point, becoming a part of that biological puzzle would mean that I wouldn’t have a place in that family, and I didn’t like that—at all. The little girl already had a mom, which would—in my estimation—totally leave me out of having any purpose. So, how could I fully love a little girl who wasn’t mine?

One afternoon, I knelt on the floor to pray and I complained to the Lord, “But God, she already has a mom.” And then suddenly, it was as if the Lord pressed a simple message into my heart, “Yes, but I am her Father. That’s why she has value. That’s why she deserves love.” I realized that it didn’t matter if she already had a mother. The only thing that mattered was that she belonged to Jesus.

The relationship with that man didn’t work out, but the lesson I learned in my little apartment that day stayed with me: all people are valuable and should be loved for one reason. . . God made them.  And because that lesson stayed with me, it has served me well in my new role as a wife and bonus mom to five grown kids. These wonderful young adults have a mom and I would never want to take her place. It’s a role of honor God has reserved for her alone. But, I love them because God loves them. He made them. That’s why they have value. And besides that, I think they are all pretty awesome.

Keeping my heart open to loving the way God loves has helped in ways I could have never anticipated. And it has resulted in blessings I could have never imagined. For example, yesterday I became a first-time grandmother when my sweet bonus daughter, Allie, gave birth to a precious baby boy. (Oh, what a beautiful yesterday!)

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As my husband and I drove to the hospital around 12 AM, I cried. Then, when we entered the hospital room, I cried. And when I got to hold our new cutie, I cried some more. God is redemptive. And He is good.

But what would have happened if I had allowed hatred or fear into my heart? What if I had rejected my new family? I would have missed out on so much. I would have missed laughter during family holidays, sharing stories, prayers, and I would have missed this beautiful moment yesterday when I got to look into the eyes of my new grandbaby for the first time.

Okay, so maybe you aren’t considering becoming a part of a blended family. Maybe you aren’t dating someone with children. But without a doubt, there will come a time when God will call on you to love someone you find difficult to love. He will ask you to put yourself out there.  And it will be uncomfortable, and maybe you’ll even dislike the whole scenario—strongly. But remember one thing before you give into virtues lesser than love. . . people have value because God made them. Period.

And you are valuable because God made you. Don’t forget it.

Much love,

Shana

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26 thoughts on “Oh, What a Beautiful Yesterday!

  1. Hi Shana!

    I once knew a workmate that was very nerdy. He had some heft, a bald head, and glasses. He was socially awkward and on the surface a bit boring. He kind of clung to people and I decided Iwas annoyed. My whole attitude re-enforced a growing resentment of Alan.

    Then one day out if the blue God said to me in words as
    Cleat as if he was sitting across from me, “God doesn’t make trash”. I was stunned. I literally looked around to see who said it. From that day forward my attitude and actions changed. We became good friends. I found out that he was really interesting guy. My annoyance turned into respect and grew into admiration.

    I learned the same lesson you learned Shana. God doesn’t make trash. We are all valuable and loved my our Creator.

    Ron

    PS congrats on a lovely grandson. God is good!!

    1. So true, Ron! God doesn’t make trash. It’s a pretty awesome thought, really. So glad you had this transforming experience with Alan.

      Thanks so much. We are sooo blessed and grateful.

      Shana

  2. It is easy to love the loveable but not so easy to love the ones I have prejudged or determined as difficult or the ones I have discounted. Thank you for your writing today as I may in the grouping someone has discounted. Love like Jesus loves unconditional and right where they are in life.
    Beautiful reminder! Congratulations on being a Grand Mom, loving as an Grand Mom is going to be a wonderful blessing as children just love, just love the ones in their life. They dont care or know what your position or title is, they just love and you love back. I am so happy for you both

    1. Thanks for your comment. What you say is true. Children don’t know anything about labels, which is a wonderful thing. I am really looking forward to spending time with our little guy.

      It can be a challenge when someone is difficult to love, and there are people who we may be wise not to allow in our lives. But it’s wise to keep an eye on our heart attitudes. Sometimes we rob ourselves of blessings.

      Have a beautiful day, Sherry!
      Shana

  3. Thank you Shana for sharing Gods love amoung the living believer and non believers. I too was in that place years ago and my late wife’s 1st son is in a good place for the love God put in my heart to show him how love heals hearts. We had 2 more kids son then daughter but teens today. As a single dad I do the best I can to help keep them strong in gods love

    1. Hi, Derric.

      I really like what you say. . .”love heals hearts.” Indeed it does. Your love will prove healing to your teen children as you continue to follow God and demonstrate His love to them. Keep it up, Dad!

      Blessings,
      Shana

  4. Congratulations! That is a very beautiful little boy. He’s one of the cutest newborns i have seen in a long time. So glad you are doing well in your blended family. I haven’t written in a long time. You would give me so many words of encouragement when i lost my job and was looking for a new one. The Lord has blessed me with a wonderful job. Thank you so much for your prayers.

    1. Hi, Belinda!

      So glad you have a new job that you like. That’s awesome. Yep, we think he’s pretty special. I am so looking forward to watching him grow up.

      Blessings,
      Shana

  5. that thought comes in play when something that really bothers you about someone i say sometime it is hard to believe we are all gods children. then i say yes we are.

  6. I love this Shana… so very true! Congratulations to you and your GOD-given family to love 🙂

  7. How beautiful and what a huge blessing!! God IS so good and is the Great Redeemer! Congratulations Shana!!

  8. Shana, What a wonderful story. Congratulations & God bless your entire family. I love your open & transparent testimonies. From your devotionals I can tell how you are in close proximity with Abba father.
    Great job sister

  9. loved the story Shana. I was a single mom at one time & wondered if anyone would want to become a family with my son & me. I have been married to my wonderful husband for 32 years and he has loved my son , for which I thank God. Congratulations on that beautiful boy.

  10. Congrats G-mommy!!!!!!! I learned years ago people period are the most valuable asset on this planet because they are valuable to God and should be treated with respect,kindness and courtesy! They are created in his image.
    Alexis

  11. Beautiful blog about God’s love and your maturity! Wishing you much joy with your blended and expanding family. I know that I treasure my four grandchildren ages 6 months to 8 years.

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  • Hi Shana!

    I once knew a workmate that was very nerdy. He had some heft, a bald head, and glasses. He was socially awkward and on the surface a bit boring. He kind of clung to people and I decided Iwas annoyed. My whole attitude re-enforced a growing resentment of Alan.

    Then one day out if the blue God said to me in words as
    Cleat as if he was sitting across from me, “God doesn’t make trash”. I was stunned. I literally looked around to see who said it. From that day forward my attitude and actions changed. We became good friends. I found out that he was really interesting guy. My annoyance turned into respect and grew into admiration.

    I learned the same lesson you learned Shana. God doesn’t make trash. We are all valuable and loved my our Creator.

    Ron

    PS congrats on a lovely grandson. God is good!!

    • So true, Ron! God doesn’t make trash. It’s a pretty awesome thought, really. So glad you had this transforming experience with Alan.

      Thanks so much. We are sooo blessed and grateful.

      Shana

  • It is easy to love the loveable but not so easy to love the ones I have prejudged or determined as difficult or the ones I have discounted. Thank you for your writing today as I may in the grouping someone has discounted. Love like Jesus loves unconditional and right where they are in life.
    Beautiful reminder! Congratulations on being a Grand Mom, loving as an Grand Mom is going to be a wonderful blessing as children just love, just love the ones in their life. They dont care or know what your position or title is, they just love and you love back. I am so happy for you both

    • Thanks for your comment. What you say is true. Children don’t know anything about labels, which is a wonderful thing. I am really looking forward to spending time with our little guy.

      It can be a challenge when someone is difficult to love, and there are people who we may be wise not to allow in our lives. But it’s wise to keep an eye on our heart attitudes. Sometimes we rob ourselves of blessings.

      Have a beautiful day, Sherry!
      Shana

  • Thank you Shana for sharing Gods love amoung the living believer and non believers. I too was in that place years ago and my late wife’s 1st son is in a good place for the love God put in my heart to show him how love heals hearts. We had 2 more kids son then daughter but teens today. As a single dad I do the best I can to help keep them strong in gods love

    • Hi, Derric.

      I really like what you say. . .”love heals hearts.” Indeed it does. Your love will prove healing to your teen children as you continue to follow God and demonstrate His love to them. Keep it up, Dad!

      Blessings,
      Shana

  • Congratulations! That is a very beautiful little boy. He’s one of the cutest newborns i have seen in a long time. So glad you are doing well in your blended family. I haven’t written in a long time. You would give me so many words of encouragement when i lost my job and was looking for a new one. The Lord has blessed me with a wonderful job. Thank you so much for your prayers.

    • Hi, Belinda!

      So glad you have a new job that you like. That’s awesome. Yep, we think he’s pretty special. I am so looking forward to watching him grow up.

      Blessings,
      Shana

  • that thought comes in play when something that really bothers you about someone i say sometime it is hard to believe we are all gods children. then i say yes we are.

  • I love this Shana… so very true! Congratulations to you and your GOD-given family to love 🙂

  • How beautiful and what a huge blessing!! God IS so good and is the Great Redeemer! Congratulations Shana!!

  • Shana, What a wonderful story. Congratulations & God bless your entire family. I love your open & transparent testimonies. From your devotionals I can tell how you are in close proximity with Abba father.
    Great job sister

  • loved the story Shana. I was a single mom at one time & wondered if anyone would want to become a family with my son & me. I have been married to my wonderful husband for 32 years and he has loved my son , for which I thank God. Congratulations on that beautiful boy.

  • Congrats G-mommy!!!!!!! I learned years ago people period are the most valuable asset on this planet because they are valuable to God and should be treated with respect,kindness and courtesy! They are created in his image.
    Alexis

  • Beautiful blog about God’s love and your maturity! Wishing you much joy with your blended and expanding family. I know that I treasure my four grandchildren ages 6 months to 8 years.

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