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Date: 05.10.17
The Benefits of Getting Older

 

patrick-b-192617Several years ago, I went through a time of transition. Rather than taking off without makeup to run to Wal-Mart as I have always done, I turned into the clone of a 17-year-old girl, only with a few more wrinkles and a lot more anti-aging cream. Also, like a teen, I started primping, fixing, smoothing, and shaping and wondered what I would do when I turn totally grey.

During this season, the deterioration of my physical body felt like a huge emotional burden as the world’s message, that only the young and physically perfect are valuable, weighed heavily on my middle-age ego.

I called a girlfriend to ask if she was feeling the same, “Oh, boy! I can relate!” she said. My question sparked a half-hour discussion about floundering through the transition to life’s middle years.

Making Your Days Count

After a few months of grieving the loss of the past, God revealed something beautiful to me about waving goodbye to physical youth: Even though the deterioration of our earthly bodies often feels like a hindrance, it is a priceless gift, a gift that reminds us that this life is passing away—and that heaven is a reality. Therefore, the passing of time is God’s personal invitation to focus on what is truly important, such as developing a stronger relationship with Him, and living with intentionality and purpose.

Some people who are deeply impacted by the loss of physical youth finally follow the dreams God placed in their hearts years before. Some decide the career they have been chasing now needs to take a back seat to a calling to serve God and others in a new way.

Unfortunately, people who insist on holding onto the past as they age may fall into the world’s ways of worshipping youth, rather than taking care of their spirits, seeking holiness, and making an impact on the lives of others. They may fall prey to sacrificing the relationships dearest to them as they try to recapture the past. However, when we have a godly perspective, there is nothing like the stripping away of our physical props to enlarge our hearts to what is truly valuable.

Focus on What Matters Most

In 2004, my 86-year-old grandfather was diagnosed with leukemia. During the weeks before his death, a tenderness settled into his eyes and a loving spirit embodied him like I’d never seen before. He hugged tighter, smiled wider, and laughed more. As his physical body failed and heaven became more of a reality, his heart enlarged to love. In a way that no one in my family could have anticipated, his greatest loss produced a greater virtue.

I believe this is how God wants the passing of our days and the loss of physical youth to impact us. He wants both to cause us to narrow our focus to what matters most—loving Him and loving others.

He also wants us to remember that we are just getting started. As one 50-year-old woman stated, we need to remember that the passing of time, “. . . isn’t the beginning of an end. It is the start of a new beginning.”

Ah, yes. For all believers in Christ, no matter what age, the passing of time isn’t the end; it’s the beginning. We are just getting started because we will live forever in heaven. May you be encouraged by these thoughts as you navigate through the years.

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17 thoughts on “The Benefits of Getting Older

  1. another good reading from Shana… she always has in the past seemed to post exactly what I have needed to hear about since it was personally going on in my life… this is no exception just something I am witnessing from someone I love with all my heart… it breaks my heart in two… thank you again Shana… as always my vessel to the Lord’s word…

  2. Wonderfully written Shana! At 59, I am more retrospective and often reflect on things, as a younger man, I wouldn’t have even entertained.

    Focusing on the blessings I have enjoyed, and having a heart for forgiveness, especially toward myself, has been liberating and indwelled me with a slow-burning subtle joy and gratitude for life, relationships and the beauty that surrounds us.

    I retired a year ago, and I have developed a serenity about passing into a new phase of life. My wife still keeps me busy (-c;), and I do consulting on the side; but it is at my pace. I can read more, spend time volunteering, join clubs, take longer walks…it’s all good; very good.

    I think if we let it, every season of our life can be beautiful and appreciated; especially if our walk includes spending time with our Lord.

    Blessings, Ron

  3. A sense of humor and a LITTLE ‘blush’ helps! Spot on, timely message today. I remember thinking, “…you think THAT AGE is difficult, wait ’till you turn 50″…then “..wait ’till you turn 60″…now almost 65 and I gulp, gasping for air as I experience arthritis and wrinkles new every morning. Women need other women. Then we can age together, gracefully with courage and humor. ugh…………

  4. Such a great blog Shana! I saw the same thing with my Dad you saw with your Grandfather when he was diagnosed with lung cancer several years ago. God gave us 5 extra years with him and he shared what Jesus did for him his last years. I am determined to not waste the years I have left and share God’s love as best I can…I just have to pray for more energy some days! Thanks again Shana!

  5. Excellent as always Shana! At 71, I have been polishing a poem called the “End of the Runway”, which speaks to exactly what you are saying here. When you truly can see the end of the runway, it makes the time you have left even more important. I also found a wonderful picture of a runway with a beautiful sunburst at the end of it. Would be happy to post the poem when finished if it would be of value.

  6. I just had to read this today even though I have not connected with you for a long time but when you said age and old that caught Mayeye I am much older than you but I do not feel it at all at but it is a rude awakening of to do use that I have left and I want to make the most of them but everything is flooding my mind with the past and the things that I haven’t done yet had fear of doing and I don’t know where to begin to do them I’m trusting in the Lord for everything everything he’s blessed me I’m a single senior and you may remember me my name is Serene i’m going through some serious mental imaging changes because suddenly I just woke up I look around me and see all these young people with all these new styles tight bodies new outfits new hairdos color hair really radical styles that I never was a custom too and I have to be careful not to be jealous because I can since that spirit wanted to come over me but I pray against that I asked God to forgive me

  7. Thank you for opening up a topic that is so relevant to so many I reached an age chronologically doesn’t match my mental and physical attitude. All the comments from others who are listening to you we’re very inspiring encouraging and helping me grow up because I was stuck in the mental gap between all the young people that are rising up and I’m not there anymore Just snapped out of it after listening to what you wrote and the others come it’s thank you Shayna

    1. You are so welcome, Serene. God is still using you and still has a plan for you to glorify Him. You aren’t done here until you go home there. Don’t forget that, Dear One.

      Blessings,
      Shana

  8. I appreciated your personal story I’m at an age I’ve never been before and it’s shocking to me I am grateful but I’m still here and I’m learning from all your viewers comments if you grow up

  9. I get it, the reality of death hit me hard about 6 mos ago. I’m 64 and am just now learning to love God rather than worrying if He loves me. Our vision actually gets sharper with age. Priorities begin to surface much faster. “His mercies are new every morning” i am finding that His mercies are also new every year!

  10. Good thoughts here. I am QUITE PAST 35 !! And although I have worked out for basically my whole life…past 5 yr. Even more so…I do not get too many physical perks…the body is aging!! And it can be dis-heartening….but my thoughts, mind and and attitude do turn to The Lord and know he loves me dearly despite my wrinkles, old age and aging body . Thank you for this article!

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  • another good reading from Shana… she always has in the past seemed to post exactly what I have needed to hear about since it was personally going on in my life… this is no exception just something I am witnessing from someone I love with all my heart… it breaks my heart in two… thank you again Shana… as always my vessel to the Lord’s word…

  • Wonderfully written Shana! At 59, I am more retrospective and often reflect on things, as a younger man, I wouldn’t have even entertained.

    Focusing on the blessings I have enjoyed, and having a heart for forgiveness, especially toward myself, has been liberating and indwelled me with a slow-burning subtle joy and gratitude for life, relationships and the beauty that surrounds us.

    I retired a year ago, and I have developed a serenity about passing into a new phase of life. My wife still keeps me busy (-c;), and I do consulting on the side; but it is at my pace. I can read more, spend time volunteering, join clubs, take longer walks…it’s all good; very good.

    I think if we let it, every season of our life can be beautiful and appreciated; especially if our walk includes spending time with our Lord.

    Blessings, Ron

  • A sense of humor and a LITTLE ‘blush’ helps! Spot on, timely message today. I remember thinking, “…you think THAT AGE is difficult, wait ’till you turn 50″…then “..wait ’till you turn 60″…now almost 65 and I gulp, gasping for air as I experience arthritis and wrinkles new every morning. Women need other women. Then we can age together, gracefully with courage and humor. ugh…………

  • Such a great blog Shana! I saw the same thing with my Dad you saw with your Grandfather when he was diagnosed with lung cancer several years ago. God gave us 5 extra years with him and he shared what Jesus did for him his last years. I am determined to not waste the years I have left and share God’s love as best I can…I just have to pray for more energy some days! Thanks again Shana!

  • Excellent as always Shana! At 71, I have been polishing a poem called the “End of the Runway”, which speaks to exactly what you are saying here. When you truly can see the end of the runway, it makes the time you have left even more important. I also found a wonderful picture of a runway with a beautiful sunburst at the end of it. Would be happy to post the poem when finished if it would be of value.

  • I just had to read this today even though I have not connected with you for a long time but when you said age and old that caught Mayeye I am much older than you but I do not feel it at all at but it is a rude awakening of to do use that I have left and I want to make the most of them but everything is flooding my mind with the past and the things that I haven’t done yet had fear of doing and I don’t know where to begin to do them I’m trusting in the Lord for everything everything he’s blessed me I’m a single senior and you may remember me my name is Serene i’m going through some serious mental imaging changes because suddenly I just woke up I look around me and see all these young people with all these new styles tight bodies new outfits new hairdos color hair really radical styles that I never was a custom too and I have to be careful not to be jealous because I can since that spirit wanted to come over me but I pray against that I asked God to forgive me

  • Thank you for opening up a topic that is so relevant to so many I reached an age chronologically doesn’t match my mental and physical attitude. All the comments from others who are listening to you we’re very inspiring encouraging and helping me grow up because I was stuck in the mental gap between all the young people that are rising up and I’m not there anymore Just snapped out of it after listening to what you wrote and the others come it’s thank you Shayna

    • You are so welcome, Serene. God is still using you and still has a plan for you to glorify Him. You aren’t done here until you go home there. Don’t forget that, Dear One.

      Blessings,
      Shana

  • I appreciated your personal story I’m at an age I’ve never been before and it’s shocking to me I am grateful but I’m still here and I’m learning from all your viewers comments if you grow up

  • I get it, the reality of death hit me hard about 6 mos ago. I’m 64 and am just now learning to love God rather than worrying if He loves me. Our vision actually gets sharper with age. Priorities begin to surface much faster. “His mercies are new every morning” i am finding that His mercies are also new every year!

  • Good thoughts here. I am QUITE PAST 35 !! And although I have worked out for basically my whole life…past 5 yr. Even more so…I do not get too many physical perks…the body is aging!! And it can be dis-heartening….but my thoughts, mind and and attitude do turn to The Lord and know he loves me dearly despite my wrinkles, old age and aging body . Thank you for this article!

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