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Date: 09.12.17
Asking the Right Questions During Hard Times

Some time ago, a red light appeared on the dashboard of my car. I know almost zero about mechanics, but I do know that when one of those little blinky things comes on, it’s “talking” to me about the internal condition of my automobile.

All of us go through life challenges and when we do, it’s normal to ask questions. We ask “Why?” “How?” or “What if?” All of the questions we ask are like lights on the dashboard of a car as they reveal what’s going on “under the hood” in our hearts. If you listen to your inquiries, they’ll reveal if things are running well with your Savior or if we need a spiritual tune-up.

What’s under the hood? 

I admire people who trust God even when they experience deep disappointment. My friend Mark is one of those people. Three years after his wife was diagnosed with a rare form of blood cancer, she went home to heaven. It was heartbreaking for Mark to lose the woman he loved after twenty-two years of marriage, but he still chose to trust Christ. Rather than demand that God tell Him why his wife died and left him alone with three sons, he asked questions of surrender: God, how can I love my boys well through this time of pain? Lord, how can I love others more because of my heartache? Indeed, Mark’s questions revealed that under the hood was trust in the God who loves him. The result has been faith that has undoubtedly pleased God (Hebrews 11:6) and peace in the midst of pain.

If you are going through a difficult time, here are a few questions to ask the Lord instead of asking “Why?” or “What if?”

Lord, what do you want to teach me?
Jesus, how can I cooperate with you so that my pain will be used for my good and your glory?
God, how can I grow more in love with you in the middle of this heartache?
Lord, how can I cooperate with you to prevent Satan from taking advantage of me during this vulnerable time?
Jesus, how can I glorify you even though I’m disappointed—or hated, or crushed, or in despair?
My Savior, what can I do to love others more because of what’s happening to me?
God, how can I experience your presence in greater measure during this time of disappointment?
Jesus, what do you want me to do?

If any of these questions have been part of your journey with Christ, praise Him for giving you the heart to stay close to Him and obey. I’d love to hear your thoughts about today’s post through your comments below.

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11 thoughts on “Asking the Right Questions During Hard Times

  1. Thank you, Shana! Always love your posts and insight~ this one was a great reminder & timely.
    Thanks for being such a wonderful encourager! And for your fun sense of humor. 🙂

  2. I really enjoy reading your stories here and on Blueprint For Life. I have been reading them for several years and they just keep getting better all the time. Many times they are just what I needed to read and were very appropriate for my then current problem or situation. God has surely blessed you with insight and wisdom and you are really hitting your stride in your calling. Thank you and God bless you and your ministy!

  3. This article touched me Shana. Life is so full of heartache and disappointments. My heart and prayers go to your friend for what has happened. That is so hard to bear and remain faithful and positive. This touched my heart and in my daily struggles with the “hard stuff” in life this is such a reminder and helpful to remember and Focus on Christ and not ourselves. This does take help from the Almighty. Thank you Shana for this article of faith hope and love.

    1. Hi, Kerri.

      You are right. Life is a mix of disappointments and joys, right? And I often wonder how we possibly get through hard times without knowing God loves us. There are some things that can be so horribly crushing.
      So awesome that we are here for just a short time, then living eternally. Woot!

      You are very welcome. It’s my pleasure.

      Many blessings,
      Shana

  4. Thank you for this post. I, like countless others, have had my fair share of trials. As God would have it I was put in positions to share my story with others at times when I was actively hurt. There were times when I would share my story and people would say, ” I would never know you are going through anything based on how you look/carry yourself.” All I can say is the glory belongs to God. I’m not this strong nor am I this wise.

    1. Hi, Tiffany.

      You are very welcome. I am so glad that the Lord has carried you through your difficult times. Isn’t it marvelous that we can lean on Him during times of trouble?

      Thanks for your comment.

      Many blessings,
      Shana

  5. Today’s post was a real eye opener because I never really thought to ask God what can I do, to be a better person even though Im the my hurts or instead of asking why ask what. Thank you for sharing; I will look at disappointments so much different from now on. No more pity parties for me!

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  • Thank you, Shana! Always love your posts and insight~ this one was a great reminder & timely.
    Thanks for being such a wonderful encourager! And for your fun sense of humor. 🙂

  • I really enjoy reading your stories here and on Blueprint For Life. I have been reading them for several years and they just keep getting better all the time. Many times they are just what I needed to read and were very appropriate for my then current problem or situation. God has surely blessed you with insight and wisdom and you are really hitting your stride in your calling. Thank you and God bless you and your ministy!

  • This article touched me Shana. Life is so full of heartache and disappointments. My heart and prayers go to your friend for what has happened. That is so hard to bear and remain faithful and positive. This touched my heart and in my daily struggles with the “hard stuff” in life this is such a reminder and helpful to remember and Focus on Christ and not ourselves. This does take help from the Almighty. Thank you Shana for this article of faith hope and love.

    • Hi, Kerri.

      You are right. Life is a mix of disappointments and joys, right? And I often wonder how we possibly get through hard times without knowing God loves us. There are some things that can be so horribly crushing.
      So awesome that we are here for just a short time, then living eternally. Woot!

      You are very welcome. It’s my pleasure.

      Many blessings,
      Shana

  • Thank you for this post. I, like countless others, have had my fair share of trials. As God would have it I was put in positions to share my story with others at times when I was actively hurt. There were times when I would share my story and people would say, ” I would never know you are going through anything based on how you look/carry yourself.” All I can say is the glory belongs to God. I’m not this strong nor am I this wise.

    • Hi, Tiffany.

      You are very welcome. I am so glad that the Lord has carried you through your difficult times. Isn’t it marvelous that we can lean on Him during times of trouble?

      Thanks for your comment.

      Many blessings,
      Shana

  • Today’s post was a real eye opener because I never really thought to ask God what can I do, to be a better person even though Im the my hurts or instead of asking why ask what. Thank you for sharing; I will look at disappointments so much different from now on. No more pity parties for me!

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