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Date: 11.04.16
Are You Disappointed That You’re Still Single?

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Hi, I’m Shana.shana-bio

I was single until I was 46.

I know. It surprised me too. Like many Christian singles today, I expected to easily meet Mister Right in my twenties. But I didn’t. And when my dreams didn’t work out like I hoped and prayed, I was deeply disappointed.

In an effort to get help and encouragement, I did what many singles do: I read Christian books such as, “When God Writes Your Love Story” and “Becoming a Friend and a Lover.” And, I read them and read them until they didn’t help anymore in my late twenties.

And to be honest, they didn’t help because they didn’t address the real challenges older Christian singles face. In fact, it seemed like no one was addressing these challenges.

I didn’t need more information about group dating and how to talk to men. I really didn’t want to read about someone who married when they were 23 talk about how hard it was to wait on God. I needed someone to help me deal with deeper things.

Because I felt isolated.

I was often lonely.

I didn’t feel like I fit in any particular church group anymore, not the college and career group, and not with the married couples.

Sometimes I felt judged because of my marital status.

There were moments when I wondered what was wrong with me.

I questioned God’s sovereignty and plan for my life.

Sometimes I struggled with doubts about His love.

Deep down, there were times when I felt others were more blessed and that God had somehow overlooked me.

I wrestled with the fear of getting hurt, so I made promises to myself to protect myself.

I entered into a couple unhealthy relationships because I didn’t entirely trust God would take care of me.

When I turned 40, I grieved that I probably wouldn’t have kids.

And honestly, I got really, really tired of hearing people tell me I was too picky.

The death of my dreams was difficult.

And I know I’m not alone. Why? Because current statistics show that over 50 percent of the adult population in the U.S. is single. And, I’m learning that there are thousands and thousands of never-married and divorced singles who feel the same.

If you’re an over-30 Christian single (who is single or divorced), you know that flying solo after 30 is a lot different than being single at 20. You have different needs. You’re facing new challenges and maybe new fears that you never thought you would.

I know, because I have been there. But there is hope!

Over the last thirteen years I have been creating content (books, blogs, special events, and radio programs) to help people with everyday life through biblical truths. Now, I’m really excited that I am developing a new website with relevant, no-fluff, uplifting, and empowering content, encouraging courses and studies, and opportunities for Christian singles who are over 30 to connect.

Which leads me to why I am putting up Facebook ads for you to click on. I would like to ask you for TWO THINGS:

1) I want you to invite you to join me and
2) I need your help

To begin, would you please fill out this survey? I want to make sure the content I will be delivering through my new website to you is relevant and helpful. And, I want to invite you to join me—and lots of other singles—at my new website.

When you fill out the survey, I’ll send you information in a few months when the site goes live. I don’t want you to miss out!

And, while you’re waiting for my email, why don’t you stay awhile? Here on shanaschutte.com, you’ll find lots of encouraging articles and blogs to help you with everyday life-including with relationships.

Don’t forget to share this survey link with your single friends so they don’t miss out either.

Many blessings,

Shana

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2 thoughts on “Are You Disappointed That You’re Still Single?

  1. Your story sounds like my life right now. I’m a 44 yr old single female. I often wonder “what’s wrong with me” to.

    1. Hi, Donna.

      It’s normal to ask questions about ourselves when life hurts. You are a beautiful creation of God worth loving. His love is in you so you know how to love and you are worthy of love.

      Have you found my SingleOver30 community on Facebook?

      Blessings,
      Shana

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  • Your story sounds like my life right now. I’m a 44 yr old single female. I often wonder “what’s wrong with me” to.

    • Hi, Donna.

      It’s normal to ask questions about ourselves when life hurts. You are a beautiful creation of God worth loving. His love is in you so you know how to love and you are worthy of love.

      Have you found my SingleOver30 community on Facebook?

      Blessings,
      Shana